tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14433300.post667195860768963498..comments2023-11-24T23:00:01.175-05:00Comments on Post-evangelical Christian: Forgiveness: It's a burdenmarauder34http://www.blogger.com/profile/00651154474169358422noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14433300.post-20313789698115329072016-06-22T18:14:41.293-04:002016-06-22T18:14:41.293-04:00I think part of the process of forgiving is lettin...I think part of the process of forgiving is letting the other person go to see you as they think you are - let them see you as unworthy, ugly, broken, not worth their time or effort or love.<br /><br />Let them.<br /><br />There's been way too much emphasis in secular therapeutic practices on the idea of "closure" - you can have it, need to find it, need to believe that it will finalize and file away the hurtful experience you've had.<br /><br />I no longer believe in the necessity of closure, or even in the idea that it's usually possible to find and obtain.<br /><br />I've come to a place, since recently realizing the practical death of my closest adult friendships, where I can no longer rage against what other people see me as, and I can no longer hope for some definitive end or final explosion that says, "this is the pivotal point where the relationship died AND the conflict ended".<br /><br />I have to just walk away. Forgiveness is about taking off the blinders, the myopic lenses through which I have seen others, viewing them as "required" to be so-and-so, yet failing, or seeing them as "supposed to" be a certain way towards me, but not doing it.<br /><br />Forgiveness frees them to answer to no one but God, as we must all do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com